Building relationships

Published 3:59 pm Thursday, August 6, 2020

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With current media avenues, you can almost know in real-time when a person is in or out of a relationship with someone.

I was first introduced to the concept of relationships with my super mom and the second understanding of relationships is when I was introduced to God. 

I remember the very first day I met my stepfather.  He came to pick my mother and me up for a date. 

Mom and I lived in a small apartment at the time.  The doorbell rang and I went to answer it.  When the door opened, there he was.  The sun was shining behind him making his silhouette look like he just walked out of a Clint Eastwood or Matthew McConaughey movie. Boy was he handsome.  I could hear the music in the background (wa, wa, wa, wa). 

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He was tall, and he had blue eyes and curly blonde hair.  That qualified him right there.  He was like a tall glass of southern gentlemen too.  To make a long story short, they got married and stayed that way for 40 years.

Years later, mom slipped into eternity first and then dad.  I could not have asked for a better pair of parents and role models.  They were two people who loved each other and loved me.

When my mother moved to Heaven, it made me even think more about eternity.  What happens when you die?

If you haven’t lost a loved one, death puts things in a different perspective.  It is not just funerals and arrangements we leave behind, but we leave behind some type of legacy.  So, I began to ask myself, “What am I doing with my time and how much time do I have left?”

I thought my parents were invincible, and I realized no one is ever really prepared for loss.  I did so much soul searching, and the older I get, the more I still do. 

Eternity is not measured by time. Eternity is and was and always will be. It is infinite.  It goes on forever and ever. From the very beginning, God desired to have a relationship with you (Genesis 1:27). This relationship takes a little more work, but not as much work as God himself has put into it. God’s love for you has always been, will always be and is still to this very day.  Not only does He love you, but He desires to be with you.

“Behold I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me” (Revelations 3:20). God desires a relationship with you. 

Building a relationship takes time. I have to spend time with another person in order to know them. I find out what their favorite drink is, what their favorite color is and even the type of music they prefer.  Reaching out to God is just like that.  I spend time drinking coffee in the morning and meditating on Scriptures that I read, or I look at His creation and acknowledge that He created me too.

God is knocking on everyone’s door. It is just up to us to answer it. 

Will you?

Yvette Perrin is a columnist for The Charlotte Gazette. She can be reached at